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Rihanna - S&M
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I have to say, as a (top-heavy) switch, I love that in the video Rihanna portrays both a dom and a sub.

Quote of the Day

“If you’re doing it for the wrong reasons, then one is too many, if you’re not — if you just like sex — then there’s no ‘too many.’” -Jackass star Chris Pontius

[via The Frisky]

Protecting your Sexual Health

One of the webcomics I read, Girls With Slingshots, has been running an arc about getting tested for STIs (and getting pap smears, ladies!) so consider this your reminder to honor your body and protect your sexual (as well as general) health :)

Quote of the Day

"If we are really going to be sexually liberated, we need to make room for a range of options as wide as the variety of human desire. We need to allow ourselves the freedom to figure out what we internally want from sex instead of mimicking whatever popular culture holds up to us as sexy. That would be sexual liberation"- Ariel Levy, Female Chauvinist Pigs: Women and the Rise of Raunch Culture

Hilarious Condom Ad

This got sent to me and it pretty much made my day. Enjoy!

Wanna try a new position?

Oh my goodness this site is not only absolutely hilarious but might inspire you to try out something new :)

The Morality of Sexuality

I recently finished reading The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity is Hurting Young Women by Jessica Valenti and am currently reading Yes Means Yes!: Visions of Female Sexual Power & A World Without Rape edited by Jaclyn Friedman and Jessica Valenti, and both of these books have me really thinking about my own relationship with sexuality. One of Valenti's major arguments in The Purity Myth is that young women's morality is based solely on whether or not she has sex, rather than being a good person. This means that any woman who isn't 100% "pure" (whatever that means) is not only considered dirty, but immoral, despite her character, kindness, integrity or any other number of qualities. Although I've found this pheomena to be true, I cannot comprehend why a woman's sexuality has anything, let alone everything, to do with her morality. These books have encouraged me to think about sexuality in a more positive light- rather than constantly thinking about "no" and what I'm not supposed to do, I feel more apt to think about what I want for myself and what I want has no baring on who I am as a persosn. Although I think it will be a process, I don't want to think about sexuality in terms of guilt, shame and fear anylonger. Rather, I want to think about what makes me happy and why, and let go of any hangups that have nothing to do with me.

Sexual Double Standards and Women's Desire

I was really irritated when I heard about a magazine for women which can't get material designed for the sexual arousal of women printed (despite women requesting more explicit material). This is especially frustrating considering the plethora of media aimed at arousing men. In movies, on TV, online and on the fronts of magazines (aimed at both women and men), we are bombarded with images of sexualized women. I guess I shouldn't be surprised, since women are not "supposed" to have active sexual desire, however, I'm still disappointed. Perhaps viewing men as sexual objects the way women are is not the most progressive of ideas, but it would at least acknowledge that women have sexual desires and can be sexual agents.

Is the Missionary Position Oppressive?

Last week, I was talking to one of my dear friends who goes to a Catholic University and somehow we got on the topic of sex (surprise, surprise). She informed me that not only does the Catholic church only believe sex is for procreation within marriage (thereby discounting any form of non-heterosexual sex) but that the only acceptable way to have sex is in the missionary position. I was a bit taken aback and surprised that the church would care. Why is the missionary position the only "acceptable" way to have sex, according to the Catholic church? Perhaps it's the theory that it's the best position to promote pregnancy or the fact that the man is on top, controlling the pace of the thrusting. Although the missionary position can seem domineering, I don't think it in itself is the problem. Sex should be whatever works for whoever is involved, and if having sex in only the missionary position is what some people choose, who is anyone to tell them they're wrong? It is not my, nor anyone else's, place to judge a person's sexual choices. As long as the people involved are consenting, anything goes, from group sex to monogamous missionary within marriage. Is the missionary position sexist? I think it depends on the situation and the people involved. It has the potential to be problematic to some. However, I think it's much more oppressive to limit people's choices when it comes to expressing their sexuality.